"To love without knowing how to love wounds the person we love. To know how to love someone, we have to understand them. To understand, we need to listen. That person maybe our partner, our friends, our sibling, or our child. You can ask, "Dear one, do you think that I understand you enough? Please tell me your difficulties, your suffering, and your deepest wishes." Then the other person has an opportunity to open their hearts."
When do you feel a joy in your daily life?
When we find a joy, and when we share the joy with others, the joy will grow. We can create the joy together.
We sometimes have challenging times in our lives. But we can choose to breath with a job in the dark moments. Why not?
Maybe the joy can be the change.
Not easy to say "no"
listen to your soul.
Do I really want to do this?
Do I really need to do this?
I want to please others?
by saying yes?
What do I want?
What do I want in my life?
I need to stand with my own feet.
I walk my life.
Finding my path; transformation;
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Ka Yu Gen Vol. 30
Building a bridge
We can not build a bridge within a day, but we can destroy it in one second. Re-buiding a destroyed bridge takes more time than building a new bridge. After destruction there are broken pieces on the ground.
When we decide to move a different direction from another person or a group of people, it is challenging how we adjust or leave or end the relationships we have built.
I do not think there is a perfect answer. But I believe if there is a choice between build or destroy, I would like to try to build. It may need to adjust something- you know- color or materials or something which I did not expect to be in the first place.
I would like to try to understand one another, because "understanding" is "love" & "compassion". I would like to try if I can be that person. I would like to transform. I would like to transform to be able to understand others. Each bridges are different- and I would like to accept and embrace that.
I would like to build many many bridges-many many different & unique bridges in the world-in this planet - with you.
Those bridges bring many possibilities.
It makes me giggles.
It makes me smile.
Let's make a bridge together!
The essence of loving kindness is being able to offer happiness. You can be the sunshine for another person. You can not offer happiness until you have it for yourself. So, build a home inside by accepting yourself and learn to love and heal yourself. Lean how to practice mindfulness in such a way that you can create moments of happiness and joy for your own nourishment. Then you have something to offer the other person.
Compassion is the capacity to understand the suffering in oneself and in the other person.If you understand your own suffering, you can help him/her to understand his/her suffering. Understanding suffering brings compassion and relief. You can transform your own suffering and help transform of the other person with the practice of mindfulness and looking deeply.
The capacity to offer joy. When you know how to generate joy, it nourishes you and nourish the other person. Your presence is an offering, like fresh air. or spring flowers, or the bright blue sky.
Equanimity, inclusiveness, and nondiscrimination. In a deep relationship, there's no longer a boundary between you and the other person.You are her/him and she/he is you. Your suffering is her/his suffering. Your understanding of your own suffering helps your loved one to suffer less. Suffering and happiness are no longer individual matters. What happens to you happens to your loved one.
There is a word, "kei-Ko" (稽古) in Japanese. Kei-Ko is repeatable practice with actively engaging your mind and commitment. It is not just a lesson or a class which you receive and learn something from your instructor. There is another word, RenSyu(練習)which is more like leaning skills.
稽:Kei is "thinking deeply something, extremely close to the subject, gathering thoughts.
古:Ko is "old thing", "a thing coming from ancient" (for me, carrying the craft which has established old time.)
The different between this Kei-Ko and regular practice, Ren Syu is active or passive. I found beauty in this. I was born and raised in martial arts family and also has trained Japanese Classic Dance. We certainly use the term Kei-Ko. When I was kid, I hated this, because it seems to take forever to have the craft you are practicing. However, I have realized it is not just about "time" of practicing, but how you practice it. One of the books about Hijikata Tatsumi-Sensei (written by his pupil) I have read, wrote his philosophy about mental preparation for Butoh dance. Hjikata-Sensei asked his pupils "All or Nothing". He asked how you face on Butoh. You are in or out. Actively thinking or Passively receiving. If we do Kei-Ko, you will have the craft own eventually. But if we just do Ren Syu, we probably never get the heart of the craft, and it won't be yours. It requires discipline, but it worth it! Let us Kei Ko Butoh Dance!
Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.
When you trip over love, it is easy to get up. But when you fall in love, it is impossible to stand again. Albert Einstein-
The present moment contains past and future.
The secret of transformation is in the way we handle the very moment. - Thich Nhat Hanh
When we breathe, we feel a moment- now.
We let breath go,
and there is a moment of nothing.
We do not need to work hard to breathe in; our bodies work itself organically.
New breathe comes in; We just receive
a new moment in our life.
For that, we need to let breath out
- letting go-
Letting go past, anything that you have been holding in your body, mind, and spirit.
Receiving new possibilities.
I think that is the key of transformation.
"Life can be found only in the present moment.
The Past is gone,
the future is not yet here,
and if we do not go back to ourselves in the present,
we cannot be in touch with life."
-Thich Nhat Hanh
I calm my body.
the present moment,
this is a
-Thich Nhat Hanh
Actor, Movement & Butoh artist, Solo-Performer