But if we listen to someone who challenges you-- to go beyond your comfort zone-- can be disagreeing what you believe, can be different way to manage things, and asking you to change- or can be simply suggestion to try something different- but still we feel pain to accepting those, because that is not what you think or believe or prefer, and not comfortable-- but why not accepting those?
as long as the disagreement or the change that the person is asking or the suggestions are coming from the true place- non ego place, and serving you to expand or grow- that is a good challenge- In Yoga Sutra: "Accepting pain for purification" (Book2: sutra 1); burning gold make the gold more pure. The challenges are an oppotunity for us to grow and transform. Accepting pain for our transformation.